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Brave Enough To Accept Certain Stepfamily Truths

The facts:

  • Your partner had a child with someone else. You cannot change this fact.
  • You are a biological outsider, just as your stepchild is a biological outsider to you.
  • Your stepchild has a right to both of their biological parents.
  • Stepparents and stepchildren do not have to like each other … but they must show respect towards each other. This is how we are raised to treat others and the identification as 'step' does not nullify this lesson.
  • The notion of 'kill them with kindness' may actually work against you in a stepfamily. You should treat others as you desire to be treated in return. Going overboard, though, is unnecessary.

This list could go on and on and one … point being there are many stepfamily truths that cannot be eradicated. They are what they are. And as a fellow stepparent I don’t necessarily like this but it’s the reality of being in a stepfamily.

So instead of trying to change things out of your control, focus on what you can control. What's that? Your reaction to stepfamily life. 

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